As i said in the first part of this series, loving yourself is not conceit or being egoist, it’s the ultimate prerequisite to be able to GIVE and RECEIVE love. You can’t give what you don’t have.
The more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others.
Here are 10 steps to loving the incredible miracle that you are
1. ACCEPT YOURSELF
The good, the bad and the ugly
You are you; Period!
Unique and distinct. Your good traits, talents, habits and bad traits are yours; accept it. That is the first step. We all know things we don’t like about ourselves that no one else knows and we would love to change. Sometimes they put us in trouble at our jobs and in our relationships with others. If you don’t like it, CHANGE IT!
2. FORGIVE YOURSELF AND LET GO OF PAST MISTAKES
We all know it’s easier said than done but holding on to the guilt that comes from making mistakes doesn’t serve you any purpose.
Mistakes are made so we can learn from them and make sure they are not repeated. It’s harder to learn from a mistake when you hold on to it; feeling guilt and trying to punish yourself.
We’ve all done things we wish we could take back. We are human and imperfect. What matters most is how we move on from them. The deed is done. Let it go! And be on guard not to repeat it.
3. FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF AGAIN
Remember all those things you love about yourself?
Could be that great personality, lovely smile, caring attitude, beautiful voice, or rare talent. Fall in love with them again. Watch old videos of you, look at old photos, and relive happy moments. Fall in love with the good in you. You are one of a kind
4. APPRECIATE YOUR LIFE AND THE PEOPLE IN IT.
We’ve all had our share of good and bad experiences in life and relationships along the way. That’s the beauty of this life journey.
Be thankful for life even if you haven’t achieved all you have set out to achieve yet. As long as you have breath in you, there is hope.
Be thankful for everything that makes you smile; your family, friends, house, job, pet. Be thankful for everyone and everything that puts a smile on your face.
5. LIVE IN THE MOMENT,HAVE FUN AND RELAX
A lot of us are so uptight about life that we lose out on all the fun. I’m not saying you should wake up every day and just have fun all year long.
I’m saying we should cherish moments more. Spend a little more time with family. Play games. Take a leisure walk around your neighbourhood. Play with kids. Watch a movie. Go to the spa. Go to a concert/ comedy show. Take a vacation. Laugh more. Smile more. Make memories.
Do something that doesn’t have work written all over it. You work so hard, you deserve it.
5 more TIPS ON HOW TO LOVE YOU BETTER in PART 3
By Oma Nnabuihe