Where Have All The Gentlemen Gone?

I was inspired to write this post after a recent occurrence that had me and my girlfriends literally bullied off a queue by young men.
While I recognize that Chivalry is as good as DEAD in this generation, I've met a good share of courteous men in my lifetime.

Ladies, have you ever had a man walk through a door ahead of you and lets it slam close behind him RIGHT IN YOUR FACE? 

Or a bunch of guys walking beside you for minutes while you obviously struggle with a heavy box or bag you are carrying?
I'm sure 90 percent of you will say yes.

Don't get me wrong .I'm not saying women are weak and always need help from men. All I'm asking is a little politeness from the male-folk.

There's a myth that "Nice Guys don't get the girl". That's ridiculous cause They MARRY the girl.
Being Courteous is not only attractive to women, its a great way to show support.

The little things matter most to women; Opening the door,Saying “thank you,” or “No, really, after you,” does not take that long and can give women, or people in general the feeling that someone acknowledges or appreciates them.
You might think ladies don't expect these "nice" things but they do and LOVE IT!
Women will  look at you differently and with a little more respect when you do.

Is asking men to be more courteous asking for too much?

  
By Oma Nnabuihe

Cheating :Can Your Relationship Survive Infidelity?

Cheating can happen in any relationship, no matter how perfect it seems from the outside.

It could rock or ruin a relationship.

It is absolutely possible to get over infidelity with honesty and communication and the key to
moving on is for both partners to be committed to doing so.

Why do people cheat?

People have individual and personal reasons for cheating on each other . We cannot conclude that everyone who cheats has a wandering eye as there are usually deeply rooted psychological reasons at work.

As humans, our needs differ and at different levels. Infidelity happens when a need at a deeper level is not being met within the relationship.

This doesn’t mean that it’s your fault if you’ve been cheated on. And it doesn’t always mean that it’s your errant partner’s fault either, just that the relationship isn’t filling both of your needs at that moment.

It’s not as simple as you doing or not doing A, B, C and the result being he/she cheated. Maybe it’s something from your partner’s past that’s created a need to cheat that you don’t know about.

Also it’s important to realise that there are many definitions of relationship so you need to make sure you’re on the same page as your partner and that what’s important to you – perhaps fidelity – is as important to them. 

Can you get over Cheating?

Communication and Honesty is the key once infidelity has been uncovered.

Both partners have to be open and honest, talk through what happened and find out exactly why the other person cheated.

A lot of people who get caught cheating just want to brush the whole thing under the carpet like it never happened and that is very dangerous step to take.

The key at this stage is that the person who has cheated doesn't shut down or keep quiet but properly explains what has gone on and why it has happened.

It is also important, that the person who has been betrayed gets all the anger they feel out of their system. Otherwise the infidelity will be like a festering sore which neither partner can move on from.

How to deal with Infidelity

Give yourself time to breathe and think. Don’t take any action in anger; you would most likely regret it. 

Being on the receiving end of infidelity can be a real blow to your self-confidence. 

So you need to know that it’s not necessarily something wrong with you, it’s something wrong with the relationship so try to remove yourself from the equation.

If you’re dealing with infidelity there are many factors to consider, such as if there are children involved. It makes it harder to walk away from the relationship.

A lot of people can’t bring themselves to forgive their partners and end up as paranoid wrecks who are clinging to a relationship they cannot trust in any more.

But she’s also seen people become paranoid wrecks, clinging to a relationship when they aren't able to forgive and trust again.

My advice is to immense yourself in positivity and prayer. Do those things that increase your positive energy and if you intent to forgive your partner, do it together. It would build love and trust in the relationship again.

By Oma Nnabuihe

Bible Verse Of The Day

In everything , treat others as you would want them to treat you, for this fulfills the law and the prophets. 

Matthew 7 verse 12

Oma Nnabuihe

40 Questions You Must Answer Honestly Before You Say I DO (PART 2)

Love is beautiful and getting married is like a dream come through for many young people but recent studies have shown that over 30 percent of marriages would end in a divorce within the first five years.
These divorces and regrets that accompany it can be avoided if people can ask themselves a few questions and answer honestly before they say I DO.
If you are in a relationship that could lead to marriage, the list is inexhaustible but here are more of those questions that could help you decide for real. 

40 Questions You Must Answer Honestly Before You Say I DO (PART 2)

If you missed Part 1 check it out HERE

11. Does he/she borrow money from you? Why?

12. Does she/he always keep their commitments and promises?

13. Does he /she help with chores? Why or why not? In your relationship, who does most of the housework and why?

14. Does this person seem over-anxious to get married?

15. Is she/he always trying to change and mold you into another person?


16. Does he/she always refer to "the ex" in negative terms. Why isn't he/she forgiving and moving on?

17. Is his/her car neat or always a mess. How about their apartment or house? What does this say about his/her personal habits?

18. Are they always promising " to change" ?


19. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the highest, how secure is this person?

20. On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate this person's temper? 

10 Reasons Why You Are Not Losing Weight

Its a New Year and many of us have made Resolutions to lose weight this year. We've tried diets and exercise but they fat doesn't seem to be going anywhere.

Here are 10 reasons why you're just not losing that weight

1.You Skip Breakfast: Skipping breakfast may seem like a great way to save calories, but your body will actually hold onto fat because it thinks it's being starved. Research shows that  people who eat breakfast regularly lose more weight, So make sure to eat breakfast each morning to jump-start your metabolism. Don't just grab anything; include protein to give yourself sustainable energy and fibre to fill you up for hours.

2.You drink too many sweet and sugary drinks and not enough water: You watch what you eat, cut back on fatty foods and don’t snack between meals, but you drink large amounts of  alcohol, fruit juice, smoothies,  and soft drinks. Have you considered the amount of calories you may be drinking every day? Every calorie counts towards your daily intake, so don’t forget about the liquid ones!

3. You Overeat "Healthy Foods/Snacks" :You should  remember that although the food you’re eating may be healthy, it should still be eaten in moderation, as eating too much of anything will cause you to gain weight.

4. You don't sleep enough: You may think that cutting back on sleep  is great for your health and fitness. Not only does sleep deprivation affect exercise performance and endurance, but it slows down your metabolism, increases appetite and makes you more likely to give in to your cravings.  Lack of sleep can increase stress levels, which can contribute to weight gain.

5. You eat too little or too large portions: Eating too little sends your body into starvation mode, slows down your metabolism and makes you store more fat.
On the other hand eating too large portions even if its just once or twice a day will make you put on weight  cause the portion sizes many of us consume could actually be the equivalent of 6 or more standard serving sizes each day. 

6. You don't eat vegetables: Not only are Veggies healthy, they contain less calories and make you feel fuller for long.

7.You don't vary your exercise routines:  You may no longer be getting the most out of your workouts cos you've been doing the same exercises over and over.
No only does it cause boredom, you become less motivated and more likely to skip your workout. This will  diminish the intensity and results of your training. meaning that will burn off fewer calories.

8. You overcompensate after workout sessions: We are familiar with the temptation to reward our workouts with an edible treat (well, you've just burned off all those calories, right?), however, it may be that  you are actually undoing all the hard work of your workout. 
Truth is, we often overestimate the calories we burn through exercise, you may even be taking in more than you have actually worked off, leading to weight gain rather than loss.

9.You are not consistent with diets/ exercise: Perhaps even worse for your metabolism and waistline than eating too much or too little is flirting regularly between the two extremes. 
If you regularly take up and abandon  diets or go starve yourself one minute and binge the next, you will play havoc with your metabolism and cause your body to store more fat. 

10. You have a medical condition: Some medical conditions such as Thyroid problems and hormonal imbalances can cause you to gain weight and make it very difficult to lose excess pounds. Also, hidden food allergies or intolerances can make it difficult to lose weight. Furthermore, while your medical condition itself may not cause weight gain, the side effects of certain medications may be the culprits.so make sure to speak to your doctor about this if you are struggling to lose weight


By Oma Nnabuihe

Bible Verse Of The Day

It is through faith that all of you are God's Children in union with Christ Jesus.  You were optimized into union with Christ and now you are clothed, so to speak with the life of Christ himself. So there is no difference between Jews and Gentiles, between slaves and free people, between en and women; you are all one in union with Christ.  

Galatians 3 verse 26-28

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Oma Nnabuihe

40 Questions You Must Answer Honestly Before You Say I DO (PART 1)

Love is beautiful and getting married is like a dream come through for many young people but recent studies have shown that over 30 percent of marriages would end in a divorce within the first five years.

These divorces and regrets that accompany it can be avoided if people can ask themselves a few questions and answer honestly before they say I DO.

If you are in a relationship that could lead to marriage, the list is inexhaustible but here are a few of those questions hat could help you decide for real.

1.  Does he /she still live at home? Why?

2. Where does he/she work? Is it a dead end job they are pleased with or always complaining about?

3. Have you checked out the family?Are there many red flags in the family you are ignoring?

4. How many past relationships has this person had and why did they end? When listening to his/her explanation, remember there are always two sides to every story.

5. What are his/her goals for the future? Are the goals realistic? Do you believe he/she has the discipline to obtain them? Have you ever seen him /her meet a specific goal?If she/he doesn't have any, why? 

6. . What are his/her friends like? Can you stand them?

7. What religion is this person and what does he or she believe in when it comes to religion?

8. What is the longest time this person has held a job?

9.  Does this person  always make fun of other people?

10. Are you embarrassed to be seen with him/her in certain social settings?

More questions in Part 2



By Oma Nnabuihe