TURN IT INTO A SEED

It is human nature to want to hold on to everything we own and have acquired. We hold on to things even when we don’t need or use them.

Giving to an average human is like losing. But this is not true. Giving can be likened to planting or investing. You have to let go of the seed or money before it can yield fruit/interest.

Clutter experts advise; “If you haven’t used it in two years, give it away” That is the last thing a lot of us wants to hear.

We hold on to that old appliance or clothing hoping it would be of use one day. And most times, we never use them.

Ever wondered why multi-millionaires and billionaires always find one charity project or the other to fund? One reason is, they have discovered the secret of the Principle of Giving.

 

This principle works irrespective of age, race, sex or religion.

It’s simple; when you give, you will be given.

You don’t have to be a millionaire to give.

Start where you are and you would soon start to see a difference in your life. Giving doesn’t have to be monetary. 

You can give emotional support, hope, a listening ear, comfort. You can even share your expertise and knowledge with those who can’t afford the kind of education you have.

There will always be someone who needs what you have abandoned or what you have.

If it’s not meeting a need, turn it into a seed---Joel Osteen.

If you help the poor, you are lending to the lord. And he will repay you….Proverbs 19:17(NLT)

You may not end the receiver’s suffering but you can be a trigger of hope; the initiator of the healing process they need.

Remember, when you give don’t give reluctantly or in response to pressure for God loves a cheerful giver- 1 Corin 9:7

By Oma Nnabuihe

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CALL ME MAYBE

3 reasons why the guy should make the first move

The first time I watched the video of Carly Rae’s “Call me maybe” song, I laughed so hard.

It showed how far ladies can go to get a man’s attention. They smile, walk seductively, and flirt with their eyes. They do everything they can to move him to make a move towards them. No matter what your do ladies, if you hope to get anything productive out of the relationship you wish to establish; DO NOT MAKE THE FIRST MOVE and here’s why:

1: A Man’s Ego is always bigger than his Pocket.

While you may boost his ego on the short-term by walking over to give him your number or introduce yourself, nothing beats the long term effect of knowing that he got you himself.

Men are born hunters. They love to pursue things; power, money, career and status.

They love to Chase down things; they race cars and Chase women. It is their natural born instinct.

When you make the first move, you take their “right” from them. Forget what they say, truth is they don’t appreciate it. Period!

2: You don’t want to date a WIMP (a weak, timid person)

I know women are sometimes loving and caring and love to make up excuses for men. You say he’s shy, or he didn't what to interrupt your date/ conversation with your girlfriends, this and that. Slow down girl!

IF a man wants something, he gets it! If he is truly interested, he will find a way to get in touch with you.

You don’t want a guy who is always scared and lacks confidence.

You may argue that he’s probably scared of rejection. Guess what? We all get to deal with rejection every day. It’s a part of everyday life and maturity.

If she rejects you, move on. It doesn’t make you less of a man. Maybe you are not her type or you need to try harder.

3: Retain your Self- Respect

When you make the first move on a guy, there is huge probability that you will need to keep doing that for as long as the relationship survives.

You will need to do all the check-up calls, scheduling of dates and hangouts, send all the texts with little or no reciprocity.

Sooner than later, he would start to feel like you were the one who wants the relationship so you need to work for it.

Don’t get me wrong, you need to do all this in a relationship and its different because it’s mutual.

But when you make the first move, the guy may see you as cheap; he becomes rude, mock you among his friends, tags you a stalker and shows you no respect.

Ask happy couples you know about who made the first move. I’m sure less than 1percent would say they were chased by their wives.

I know the role of women has evolved over the decades. More women have become bread winners and hold top career positions so why can’t they make the first move at a man they like when they see he’s also interested.

One rule remains true and hasn’t changed through the generations.

When it comes to dating and marriage, your grandmother is still right; IT’S THE MANS JOB TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE.

Oma Nnabuihe

10 SHORT TIPS ON HOW TO LOVE YOU BETTER (PART 3)

This is the third and concluding part of this series to help you love you better.

Remember; the more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others.

6. EMBRACE YOUR FUTURE/NURTURE YOUR DREAMS

Dream big; see yourself living a better life than you are already. Don’t go around looking like the world is on your shoulder. News flash,! It’s on over 6 billion peoples shoulders and you don’t see everyone going around with a poor-old-me attitude.

Take steps every day that lead you towards the better future you dream of. Read a book, write the professional exam, take a class, learn a skill, and make that decision. Do something that moves you closer to the better life you anticipated

7. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.

Why do you need three friends to validate a dress before you can wear it out?

Why don’t you trust yourself to make right decisions even in the tiniest of matters?

Come on! Give yourself some credit. Trust your instincts, listen to your ideas, write them down, and develop them. You will be surprised at how creative and intelligent you are.

8. APPLAUD YOURSELF FOR GOOD WORK/ MINIMIZE SELF CRITICISM

A lot of us have been watching the Olympics; do you see how athletes applaud themselves when they perform well? They clap,dance and,act silly.They walk with their shoulders high.

Unlike a lot of us think, this is not pride. Its Self-Affirmation. You can’t sit around waiting for someone to praise you for your efforts. Do it minimally, but do it anyways. Don’t let it get to your head.

Look in the mirror and say to yourself

‘You did well today’ It drives you to do even better at the next task.

So you ask me, what happens with those who lose? As humans, we would criticize ourselves for sure. Some people take it to the extreme though and cause more harm than good to them.

Manage your criticism; let it also be a tool to drive you to do better. You see some athletes do badly at an event and perform fantastic at the next. A little praise, minimal criticism

9. LOOK AFTER YOUR BODY

I recently had my battle with maintaining my ideal weight and now I can boldly tell you its all ingrained in Self-love.

You would let no harm come to your body when you love you.

You would stop those bad habits that kill your body. As for food and obesity, I’ll use this analogy that has worked for me.

Your body is like the most expensive car in the world. That car you would die for. Food is fuel for the tank.

If you want your car to function optimally; when you go to the gas station, you only put fuel in the fuel tank and not in the boot or sitting area.

It’s the same as food.

Don’t eat so much your whole body becomes bloated and there’s nowhere else to store the fat.

You only need a little food to keep you alive and healthy.

Keep this in mind when you have those cravings. I’ve had enough fuel for the day” Exercise as much as possible. You can only have one body. You can replace the parts, but there’s nothing as good as keeping the original working perfectly.

10.GROW SPIRITUALLY

As a Christian, I know that I feel more whole when I'm more in tune with God. I feel more alive. I feel more active. I have more faith in life and I'm a better person.

No matter your faith and religion, I believe you must feel the same.

Read the Bible more and pray more.

In all these steps there’s one thing you should remember.

You deserve to be loved.

When you understand how to show love to yourself first; then you would understand how to show love to others.

One Law stand true, when you give, you will receive.

If you ever feel unloved, there’s one love you can ALWAYS count on; GODS LOVE.

It’s the only unconditional love in existence and he loves you now and always

Oma Nnabuihe

10 SHORT TIPS ON HOW TO LOVE YOU BETTER (PART 2)

As i said in the first part of this series, loving yourself is not conceit or being egoist, it’s the ultimate prerequisite to be able to GIVE and RECEIVE love. You can’t give what you don’t have.

The more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others.

Here are 10 steps to loving the incredible miracle that you are

1. ACCEPT YOURSELF

The good, the bad and the ugly

You are you; Period!

Unique and distinct. Your good traits, talents, habits and bad traits are yours; accept it. That is the first step. We all know things we don’t like about ourselves that no one else knows and we would love to change. Sometimes they put us in trouble at our jobs and in our relationships with others. If you don’t like it, CHANGE IT!

2. FORGIVE YOURSELF AND LET GO OF PAST MISTAKES

We all know it’s easier said than done but holding on to the guilt that comes from making mistakes doesn’t serve you any purpose.

Mistakes are made so we can learn from them and make sure they are not repeated. It’s harder to learn from a mistake when you hold on to it; feeling guilt and trying to punish yourself.

We’ve all done things we wish we could take back. We are human and imperfect. What matters most is how we move on from them. The deed is done. Let it go! And be on guard not to repeat it.

3. FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF AGAIN

Remember all those things you love about yourself?

Could be that great personality, lovely smile, caring attitude, beautiful voice, or rare talent. Fall in love with them again. Watch old videos of you, look at old photos, and relive happy moments. Fall in love with the good in you. You are one of a kind

4. APPRECIATE YOUR LIFE AND THE PEOPLE IN IT.

We’ve all had our share of good and bad experiences in life and relationships along the way. That’s the beauty of this life journey.

Be thankful for life even if you haven’t achieved all you have set out to achieve yet. As long as you have breath in you, there is hope.

Be thankful for everything that makes you smile; your family, friends, house, job, pet. Be thankful for everyone and everything that puts a smile on your face.

5. LIVE IN THE MOMENT,HAVE FUN AND RELAX

A lot of us are so uptight about life that we lose out on all the fun. I’m not saying you should wake up every day and just have fun all year long.

I’m saying we should cherish moments more. Spend a little more time with family. Play games. Take a leisure walk around your neighbourhood. Play with kids. Watch a movie. Go to the spa. Go to a concert/ comedy show. Take a vacation. Laugh more. Smile more. Make memories.

Do something that doesn’t have work written all over it. You work so hard, you deserve it.

5 more TIPS ON HOW TO LOVE YOU BETTER in PART 3

By Oma Nnabuihe

10 SHORT TIPS ON HOW TO LOVE YOU BETTER (PART 1)

You were born an original, don’t die a copy….. John Mason

There is only one YOU in the whole world and it don’t matter if you are a twin.

Many of us live our lives trying to act, live and be like someone else hereby missing out on experiencing the incredible wonder that we are. Nobody can know you like you know yourself and no human can love you more than you love yourself.

Loving yourself is not conceit or being egoist, it’s the ultimate prerequisite to be able to GIVE and RECEIVE love. You can’t give what you don’t have.

When you spend your life looking for love from others, hoping love would find you, yearning for some special love. You end up feeling sad and empty because life doesn’t work that way.

The more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others.

I appreciate the fact that LOVING ONESELF completely is not as easy as it sounds. So, in the next part of this series, I have outlined steps that could help you.

I call them the 10 SHORT TIPS ON HOW TO LOVE YOU BETTER

Continues in the next post

Oma Nnabuihe