Life through my eyes

Love is beautiful and getting married is like a dream come through for many young people but recent studies have shown that over 30 percent of marriages would end in a divorce within the first five years. These divorces and regrets that accompany it can be avoided if people can ask themselves a few questions and answer honestly before they say I DO. If you are in a relationship that could lead to marriage, the list is inexhaustible  but here are a few of those questions hat could help you decide for real. 1.  Does he /she still live at home ? Why? 2. Where does he/she work ? Is it a dead end job they are pleased with or always complaining about? 3. Have you checked out the family?Are there many red flags in the family you are ignoring? 4.  How many past   relationships has this person had and why did they end? When listening to his/her explanation, remember there are always two sides to every story . 5. What are his/her goals for the...

3 reasons why the guy should make the first move The first time I watched the video of Carly Rae’s “Call me maybe” song, I laughed so hard. It showed how far ladies can go to get a man’s attention. They smile, walk seductively, and flirt with their eyes. They do everything they can to move him to make a move towards them. No matter what your do ladies, if you hope to get anything productive out of the relationship you wish to establish; DO NOT MAKE THE FIRST MOVE and here’s why: 1: A Man’s Ego is always bigger than his Pocket . While you may boost his ego on the short-term by walking over to give him your number or introduce yourself, nothing beats the long term effect of knowing that he got you himself. Men are born hunters. They love to pursue things; power, money, career and status. They love to Chase down things; they race cars and Chase women. It is their natural born instinct. When you make the first move, you take their “right” from them. Forget what the...

As i said in the first part of this series, loving yourself is not conceit or being egoist, it’s the ultimate prerequisite to be able to GIVE and RECEIVE love. You can’t give what you don’t have. The more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others. Here are 10 steps to loving the incredible miracle that you are 1. ACCEPT YOURSELF The good, the bad and the ugly You are you; Period! Unique and distinct. Your good traits, talents, habits and bad traits are yours; accept it. That is the first step. We all know things we don’t like about ourselves that no one else knows and we would love to change. Sometimes they put us in trouble at our jobs and in our relationships with others. If you don’t like it, CHANGE IT! 2. FORGIVE YOURSELF AND LET GO OF PAST MISTAKES We all know it’s easier said than done but holding on to the guilt that comes from making mistakes doesn’t serve you any purpose. Mistakes are made so we c...

You were born an original, don’t die a copy….. John Mason There is only one YOU in the whole world and it don’t matter if you are a twin. Many of us live our lives trying to act, live and be like someone else hereby missing out on experiencing the incredible wonder that we are. Nobody can know you like you know yourself and no human can love you more than you love yourself. Loving yourself is not conceit or being egoist, it’s the ultimate prerequisite to be able to GIVE and RECEIVE love. You can’t give what you don’t have. When you spend your life looking for love from others, hoping love would find you, yearning for some special love. You end up feeling sad and empty because life doesn’t work that way. The more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others. I appreciate the fact that LOVING ONESELF completely is not as easy as it sounds. So, in the next part of this series, I have outlined steps that could help you. I c...

The minute i heard my first love-story, i started looking for you not knowing how blind that was.Lovers don't finally meet somewhere, they are in each other all along. ....Rumi Sometimes your nearness takes my breath away and all the things i want to say find no voice. Then in silence, i can only hope my eyes will speak my heart... Robert Sexton. But love... is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action,a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day....Nicholas Sparks We love because its the only true adventure ....Nicki Giovanni Love consists in leaving the loved one space to be themselves while providing the security within which that self may flourish...Tony Judt Love having no geography,knows no boundaries: weight and sink it deep,no matter, it will rise and find the surface...Truman Capote. To love unconditionally requires no contracts,bargains or agreements. Love exists in the moment-to-moment flux of life.... Marion woo...

There goes a saying thus “True character is portrayed when no one else is looking” How do you act when no one is watching? When it’s you and only you that make the decisions? When you will not be questioned and are answerable to no one but yourself? When there are no rewards for acting right? How do you behave or speak when no one is watching? Favour, Connections and hardwork can get us to unimaginable heights both in our career and personal life but it’s our character that will either help us blossom or run us down Mans true nature is to be selfish and even God when giving us his greatest commandment knew this. He said LOVE your neighbour AS YOURSELF . What you cannot do for yourself, you will never do for others. Only Christ has shown us Unselfish love through his death on the cross. You work for a company for 20years and decided to start up your own small business; no one is watching or asking you for your account book. How you take decisions in that business w...