Life through my eyes

It is human nature to want to hold on to everything we own and have acquired. We hold on to things even when we don’t need or use them. Giving to an average human is like losing. But this is not true. Giving can be likened to planting or investing. You have to let go of the seed or money before it can yield fruit/interest. Clutter experts advise; “If you haven’t used it in two years, give it away” That is the last thing a lot of us wants to hear. We hold on to that old appliance or clothing hoping it would be of use one day. And most times, we never use them. Ever wondered why multi-millionaires and billionaires always find one charity project or the other to fund? One reason is, they have discovered the secret of the Principle of Giving.   This principle works irrespective of age, race, sex or religion. It’s simple; when you give, you will be given. You don’t have to be a millionaire to give. Start where you are and you would soon start to see a d...

3 reasons why the guy should make the first move The first time I watched the video of Carly Rae’s “Call me maybe” song, I laughed so hard. It showed how far ladies can go to get a man’s attention. They smile, walk seductively, and flirt with their eyes. They do everything they can to move him to make a move towards them. No matter what your do ladies, if you hope to get anything productive out of the relationship you wish to establish; DO NOT MAKE THE FIRST MOVE and here’s why: 1: A Man’s Ego is always bigger than his Pocket . While you may boost his ego on the short-term by walking over to give him your number or introduce yourself, nothing beats the long term effect of knowing that he got you himself. Men are born hunters. They love to pursue things; power, money, career and status. They love to Chase down things; they race cars and Chase women. It is their natural born instinct. When you make the first move, you take their “right” from them. Forget what the...

This is the third and concluding part of this series to help you love you better. Remember; the more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others. 6. EMBRACE YOUR FUTURE/NURTURE YOUR DREAMS Dream big; see yourself living a better life than you are already. Don’t go around looking like the world is on your shoulder. News flash,! It’s on over 6 billion peoples shoulders and you don’t see everyone going around with a poor-old-me attitude. Take steps every day that lead you towards the better future you dream of. Read a book, write the professional exam, take a class, learn a skill, and make that decision. Do something that moves you closer to the better life you anticipated 7. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF . Why do you need three friends to validate a dress before you can wear it out? Why don’t you trust yourself to make right decisions even in the tiniest of matters? Come on! Give yourself some credit. Trust your instincts, listen to your ideas...

As i said in the first part of this series, loving yourself is not conceit or being egoist, it’s the ultimate prerequisite to be able to GIVE and RECEIVE love. You can’t give what you don’t have. The more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others. Here are 10 steps to loving the incredible miracle that you are 1. ACCEPT YOURSELF The good, the bad and the ugly You are you; Period! Unique and distinct. Your good traits, talents, habits and bad traits are yours; accept it. That is the first step. We all know things we don’t like about ourselves that no one else knows and we would love to change. Sometimes they put us in trouble at our jobs and in our relationships with others. If you don’t like it, CHANGE IT! 2. FORGIVE YOURSELF AND LET GO OF PAST MISTAKES We all know it’s easier said than done but holding on to the guilt that comes from making mistakes doesn’t serve you any purpose. Mistakes are made so we c...

You were born an original, don’t die a copy….. John Mason There is only one YOU in the whole world and it don’t matter if you are a twin. Many of us live our lives trying to act, live and be like someone else hereby missing out on experiencing the incredible wonder that we are. Nobody can know you like you know yourself and no human can love you more than you love yourself. Loving yourself is not conceit or being egoist, it’s the ultimate prerequisite to be able to GIVE and RECEIVE love. You can’t give what you don’t have. When you spend your life looking for love from others, hoping love would find you, yearning for some special love. You end up feeling sad and empty because life doesn’t work that way. The more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others. I appreciate the fact that LOVING ONESELF completely is not as easy as it sounds. So, in the next part of this series, I have outlined steps that could help you. I c...

Can't believe i can find the courage to write this I haven't been able to write in months I've had it! Enough is enough! I'm letting go of the fear that has gripped me for so long Fear of moving forward in my life Fear of failure Fear of looking "too" beautiful Fear of losing another dear one I have to learn to comfort myself without food. This i have done over the past months since losing my dad. I lost interest in my favorite things Grew from a size 8 to a size 12 within months. I found an inexplicable interest in anything that smelt or tasted good; Comfort eating they call it. This is not not an epistle of how i plan to find myself again. Its just a note to the universe that I'm done. I'm letting go of doubt that i can be proud of my body again I'm done feeling guilty and helpless I'm done feeling mad at myself I'm done finding comfort in that which is baked, grilled, chilled or cooked. I'm done with FOOD. Oma

The minute i heard my first love-story, i started looking for you not knowing how blind that was.Lovers don't finally meet somewhere, they are in each other all along. ....Rumi Sometimes your nearness takes my breath away and all the things i want to say find no voice. Then in silence, i can only hope my eyes will speak my heart... Robert Sexton. But love... is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action,a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day....Nicholas Sparks We love because its the only true adventure ....Nicki Giovanni Love consists in leaving the loved one space to be themselves while providing the security within which that self may flourish...Tony Judt Love having no geography,knows no boundaries: weight and sink it deep,no matter, it will rise and find the surface...Truman Capote. To love unconditionally requires no contracts,bargains or agreements. Love exists in the moment-to-moment flux of life.... Marion woo...

It is paramount that we show love to one another irrespective of the day,time and place. i wouldn't delve into the history of Saint Valentine's day but we all know it as a time of sharing,caring and giving. It's not about the size of the gift, its about the intent. Letting the receiver know that we can share a part thats dear to us with them. Let's remember those who lack in this day also;widows,orphans and the less privileged. Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world...James 1:27 For those who are single remember that you can only love anyone as much as you love yourself. Show yourself some love today; buy yourself a gift,go for dinner or go do something you see as fun after work. Most of all,Stay safe, have fun, be happy. Happy Valentines! Love xoxo Oma

I look to you I look to you, After all my strength is gone In you I can be strong I look to you, I look to you And when melodies are gone In you I hear a song I look to you .....Whitney houston You were an epitome of beauty,grace and poise;a true DIVA I respected and loved you as millions of others did. Though you made all those mistakes,it only proved that like us you were HUMAN You have left your mark on this earth and that's what this time given to us is all about. I wish you had stayed longer and fought harder but fight you did and that is a source of strength to many. May God console all who love you especially the young daughter you left behind. May she not make the same mistakes you did. Amen Rest in Peace Whitney The greatest life and career decision you will ever make is who you marry... Oma

Singing... All the single ladies(all the single ladies) All the single ladies(all the single ladies) All the single ladies now put your hands up.......Beyonce As the day that causes serious issues in this world draws near; Valentines day. i have decided to do my own bit in cheering young women around the world that share a much stereotyped single status as me by sharing a piece that cheered me up also. http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Why-Am-I-Alone i totally agree with writer oh.! Read the article and tell me what you think. Oma

The other day an old classmate found me on facebook and added me. I had lost contact with most of my High school friends and was glad to reconnect. In less than 48 hours he wrote this on my wall "I like you as a person even in secondary sch.(Ojo High) but I just discovered through fb(facebook) that you're so full of yourself. Don't forget that true fame and greatness comes from above". This is someone i haven't spoken to in over 9 years! How do you judge someone so harshly by going through their facebook page for 48hours. I responded to the post and said this "Wow! Good to know. Stanley the Judge. You will be judged in like measure. Thank you so much" I was stunned that anyone would act in such a manner but it made me think and reevaluate my life. I looked back at the years and saw the struggle with my faith, my career and everything; the way i had consciously taken hard decisions that had found favour with God and made my life better. 2011 was a uniqu...

Hello friends, Its been a while. Hope you are doing great and the new year is looking up. My new year has been kind of slow so far but i believe it would pick up soon. I hope to be a better blogger this year. i have so much i want to share with you all. Stay strong, Be kind to one another Oma