Life through my eyes

I was inspired to write this post after a recent occurrence that had me and my girlfriends literally bullied off a queue by young men. While I recognize that  Chivalry  is as good as DEAD in this generation, I've met a good share of courteous men in my lifetime. Ladies, have you ever had a man walk through a door ahead of you and lets it slam close behind him RIGHT IN YOUR FACE?  Or a bunch of guys walking beside you for minutes while you obviously struggle with a heavy box or bag you are carrying? I'm sure 90 percent of you will say yes. Don't get me wrong .I'm not saying women are weak and always need help from men. All I'm asking is a little politeness from the male-folk. There's a myth that "Nice Guys don't get the girl". That's ridiculous cause They MARRY the girl. Being Courteous is not only attractive to women, its a great way to show support. The little things matter most to women; ...

Cheating can happen in any relationship, no matter how perfect it seems from the outside . It could rock or ruin a relationship. It is absolutely possible to get over infidelity with honesty and communication and the key to moving on is for both partners to be committed to doing so. Why do people cheat? People have individual and personal reasons for cheating on each other . We cannot conclude that everyone who cheats has a wandering eye as there are usually deeply rooted psychological reasons at work. As humans, our needs differ and at different levels. Infidelity happens when a need at a deeper level is not being met within the relationship. This doesn’t mean that it’s your fault if you’ve been cheated on. And it doesn’t always mean that it’s your errant partner’s fault either, just that the relationship isn’t filling both of your needs at that moment. It’s not as simple as you doing or not doing A, B, C and the result being he/she cheated. Maybe it’s somethin...

In everything , treat others as you would want them to treat you, for this fulfills the law and the prophets.  Matthew 7 verse 12 Oma Nnabuihe

Love is beautiful and getting married is like a dream come through for many young people but recent studies have shown that over 30 percent of marriages would end in a divorce within the first five years. These divorces and regrets that accompany it can be avoided if people can ask themselves a few questions and answer honestly before they say I DO. If you are in a relationship that could lead to marriage, the list is inexhaustible  but here are more of those questions that could help you decide for real.  40 Questions You Must Answer Honestly Before You Say I DO (PART 2) If you missed Part 1 check it out  HERE 11.  Does he/she borrow money from you? Why? 12.  Does she/he always keep their commitments and promises? 13.  Does he /she help with chores ? Why or why not? In your relationship, who does most of the housework and why? 14.  Does this person seem  over-anxious  to get married? 15.  Is she/he always...

Its a New Year and many of us have made Resolutions to lose weight this year. We've tried diets and exercise but they fat doesn't seem to be going anywhere. Here are 10 reasons why you're just not losing that weight 1.You Skip Breakfast:  Skipping breakfast may seem like a great way to save calories, but your body will actually hold onto fat because it thinks it's being starved. Research shows that   people who eat breakfast regularly lose more weight , So make sure to eat breakfast each morning to jump-start your metabolism. Don't just grab anything; include protein to give yourself sustainable energy and  fibre  to fill you up for hours. 2.You drink too many sweet and sugary drinks and not enough water:   You watch what you eat, cut back on fatty foods and don’t snack between meals, but you drink large amounts of  alcohol, fruit juice, smoothies,  and soft drinks.  Have you considered the amount of calories you may be drinking every day...

It is through faith that all of you are God's Children in union with Christ Jesus.  You were optimized into union with Christ and now you are clothed, so to speak with the life of Christ himself . So there is no difference between Jews and Gentiles, between slaves and free people, between en and women; you are all one in union with Christ.   Galatians 3 verse 26-28 youversion.com Oma Nnabuihe

Love is beautiful and getting married is like a dream come through for many young people but recent studies have shown that over 30 percent of marriages would end in a divorce within the first five years. These divorces and regrets that accompany it can be avoided if people can ask themselves a few questions and answer honestly before they say I DO. If you are in a relationship that could lead to marriage, the list is inexhaustible  but here are a few of those questions hat could help you decide for real. 1.  Does he /she still live at home ? Why? 2. Where does he/she work ? Is it a dead end job they are pleased with or always complaining about? 3. Have you checked out the family?Are there many red flags in the family you are ignoring? 4.  How many past   relationships has this person had and why did they end? When listening to his/her explanation, remember there are always two sides to every story . 5. What are his/her goals for the...

It is human nature to want to hold on to everything we own and have acquired. We hold on to things even when we don’t need or use them. Giving to an average human is like losing. But this is not true. Giving can be likened to planting or investing. You have to let go of the seed or money before it can yield fruit/interest. Clutter experts advise; “If you haven’t used it in two years, give it away” That is the last thing a lot of us wants to hear. We hold on to that old appliance or clothing hoping it would be of use one day. And most times, we never use them. Ever wondered why multi-millionaires and billionaires always find one charity project or the other to fund? One reason is, they have discovered the secret of the Principle of Giving.   This principle works irrespective of age, race, sex or religion. It’s simple; when you give, you will be given. You don’t have to be a millionaire to give. Start where you are and you would soon start to see a d...

3 reasons why the guy should make the first move The first time I watched the video of Carly Rae’s “Call me maybe” song, I laughed so hard. It showed how far ladies can go to get a man’s attention. They smile, walk seductively, and flirt with their eyes. They do everything they can to move him to make a move towards them. No matter what your do ladies, if you hope to get anything productive out of the relationship you wish to establish; DO NOT MAKE THE FIRST MOVE and here’s why: 1: A Man’s Ego is always bigger than his Pocket . While you may boost his ego on the short-term by walking over to give him your number or introduce yourself, nothing beats the long term effect of knowing that he got you himself. Men are born hunters. They love to pursue things; power, money, career and status. They love to Chase down things; they race cars and Chase women. It is their natural born instinct. When you make the first move, you take their “right” from them. Forget what the...

This is the third and concluding part of this series to help you love you better. Remember; the more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others. 6. EMBRACE YOUR FUTURE/NURTURE YOUR DREAMS Dream big; see yourself living a better life than you are already. Don’t go around looking like the world is on your shoulder. News flash,! It’s on over 6 billion peoples shoulders and you don’t see everyone going around with a poor-old-me attitude. Take steps every day that lead you towards the better future you dream of. Read a book, write the professional exam, take a class, learn a skill, and make that decision. Do something that moves you closer to the better life you anticipated 7. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF . Why do you need three friends to validate a dress before you can wear it out? Why don’t you trust yourself to make right decisions even in the tiniest of matters? Come on! Give yourself some credit. Trust your instincts, listen to your ideas...

As i said in the first part of this series, loving yourself is not conceit or being egoist, it’s the ultimate prerequisite to be able to GIVE and RECEIVE love. You can’t give what you don’t have. The more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others. Here are 10 steps to loving the incredible miracle that you are 1. ACCEPT YOURSELF The good, the bad and the ugly You are you; Period! Unique and distinct. Your good traits, talents, habits and bad traits are yours; accept it. That is the first step. We all know things we don’t like about ourselves that no one else knows and we would love to change. Sometimes they put us in trouble at our jobs and in our relationships with others. If you don’t like it, CHANGE IT! 2. FORGIVE YOURSELF AND LET GO OF PAST MISTAKES We all know it’s easier said than done but holding on to the guilt that comes from making mistakes doesn’t serve you any purpose. Mistakes are made so we c...

You were born an original, don’t die a copy….. John Mason There is only one YOU in the whole world and it don’t matter if you are a twin. Many of us live our lives trying to act, live and be like someone else hereby missing out on experiencing the incredible wonder that we are. Nobody can know you like you know yourself and no human can love you more than you love yourself. Loving yourself is not conceit or being egoist, it’s the ultimate prerequisite to be able to GIVE and RECEIVE love. You can’t give what you don’t have. When you spend your life looking for love from others, hoping love would find you, yearning for some special love. You end up feeling sad and empty because life doesn’t work that way. The more you love you, the more love you have to share to others and the more love you receive from others. I appreciate the fact that LOVING ONESELF completely is not as easy as it sounds. So, in the next part of this series, I have outlined steps that could help you. I c...